Interpreting Body Language Attraction Signals and Gestures of the Opposite Sex

Did you know that the body Language of both males and females will change dramatically when in the presence of the opposite sex. For instance, a man will automatically straighten up his body, stand a little taller, and avoiding all those common slumping or slouching postures.

When a man is in the company of a woman he's interested in, he will try his best to appear more dominant by pulling in his stomach and expanding his chest out.

Let's say coincidentally the woman he likes here shares the same interest and is taking a fancy to this man, she will also automatically display herself being submissive by gestures like turning and exposing her wrists, tilting her head a bit, and touching her hair.

The interesting thing is the gestures of this man and woman were delivered subconsciously on an automatic response mode. Well, there are of course those intended and coordinated attraction and flirting gestures that were made consciously.

What Type of Attraction Gestures Men Use

Men basically do not have a large inventory of attraction and flirting gestures compared to women. When a man is interested in a woman, he will just focus his gestures to display his masculinity and the macho-man image.

His gestures normally will begin with patting his hair into place, smooth and straighten his clothes, adjust his tie if he is wearing one, and often thrust his chin forward. At the same time, he will extend out his chest, straighten his back, and draw in his stomach as mentioned earlier on.

A man normally will display his masculinity and dominance by tucking his thumbs into his belt, and pointing them at his crotch. This is in fact a very common sight of men using gestures to emphasize on his manhood.

What Type of Attraction Gestures Women Use

On the contrary, when a woman is interested in a guy, she will blast out tons of signs and signals to notify him of her feelings. Unfortunately on the down side here is that many men are totally oblivious to these signs and signals. Making things worse, women sometimes unintentionally send out mixed signals when trying to manipulate the men into displaying their feelings for her. Very often this will end up with the men confused and resulting with them avoiding and not approaching her.

In a room, when a woman finds the man she is attracted to, she will normally gaze at him until she seizes his attention and thus forming the first visual contact. She will then hold on to this eye contact for two to three seconds before looking elsewhere. Subsequently, she will further display other gestures to express her interest in this particular guy.

One of the gestures most commonly used by a woman around a man she is attracted to is the hair flicking gesture. What happens here is that the woman will flick her hair away from a face or over her shoulder in a sensual way. Surprisingly, this gesture is also performed by many women with short hair.

When a woman slowly and suggestively caress her neck or thigh, she is implying to the man that he might be able to touch her in these ways too if he can captivate and mesmerize her to her delight. This is the self stroking gesture which is frequently used by women.

Another gesture to watch out for is the droopy wrist gesture. This gesture is often used for the maximum effect when fondling a cylindrical item. Women like to use this gesture to make a guy feel that he could have full control of her. This droopy wrist gesture is perceived by many men as a submission signal.

A similar seductive gesture used by women to draw in the man will be the neck baring gesture. This is another submissive gesture seen by men in the same way as the droopy wrist gesture. As how it is suggested here, the woman will bare her neck to the man by tilting her head to one side of her shoulder.

Is He/She Already Seeing Someone Else?

When a person sees someone they are interested in, most often the reason that is stopping them from walking over to that person to chat up is the thought that maybe this particular person is not single and already seeing someone else. Hence, bringing forth the notion of maybe that someone else is around there, or might be arriving soon.

Picture this scenario at a bar, a beautiful lady is attracted to this charming and good looking guy within a group of people standing across the room. She then uses the gazing technique to establish eye contact indicating she is interested in him.

The guy seemed to be a bit oblivious to her signals, or maybe he's just a little bit on the shy side. So the lady decides maybe instead she should go over there and give this shy guy the opportunity to strike up a conversation with her. As she was about to move, a lovely lady joined the group and is now standing next to the charming guy. Apparently this lovely lady seems to be from that same group too, and she appears to be quite close to that guy.

Now the question "Are they a couple?" pops up in this beautiful lady's mind. She's contemplating whether should she just stay put where she is, or still proceed to go over there? Most often and most likely, just to play it safe, the decision will be to stay where she is to avoid any awkward or embarrassing situation.

My Own Intimate Zone

Not only it's natural, but also a proven scientific fact that how much closer two people sit, stand, or lie next to each other, is very much akin to how close and intimate they are emotionally to each other.

Each and every person has got their own intimate zone. The size of this zone may vary a little bit from one person to another person but only at a minimal rate. It begins with the body itself, extending as far as one and a half feet/half a meter from it. To that person, everything within this intimate zone "belongs" to them, or considered as "theirs".

Parents, siblings, spouses, lovers, children, close relatives and very close friends will normally stand within 18 inches/50 centimeters of each other. Like them, only those who are considered as emotionally close to us may be allowed to break through this space barrier and enter the intimate zone. Any uninvited stranger that enters this zone will be look upon as an act of intimidation and hostility, prompting the person to move away from the intruder immediately.

This is perhaps the main reason why people will stay for years with the same doctor, or dentist, even traveling miles to get there, rather than subject themselves to the stress of allowing a stranger into their intimate zone.

High Touch Properties

Generally people will touch things, or lean against something that they feel is theirs. They do this in many different ways using fingers, arms, feet, and even buttocks. For instance, a person will sometimes lean on the walls with their back and shoulder, or lean on the tables with their buttocks when they are at their own home. However, you will not be able to witness these behaviors if they are in the homes of people they are unfamiliar with.

The same rules apply here with couples holding hands, brushing each other's arms as they walk, or tidying and adjusting each other's clothes. One of the most common signals that you will always notice everywhere will be the way women demonstrates ownership to her man by placing her palm flat on his chest. The same kind of display can also be seen here when a man places his hand on the waist or back of his partner.

Beauty, They Say, Is In The Eye of The Beholder

There is a great difference between what is attractive to men and women, which are believed to be originated from our prehistoric ancestors of hunters (male) and food gatherers (female).

Women in general tends to be attracted to men who are powerful, assertive and independent, the qualities which highly suggest the person as a capable provider and a reliable father for their children. On the other hand, what men find attractive in women is usually based more on their visually attractive exterior.

In both cases, as men or women, by emphasizing on these qualities, we would always hope to make ourselves more attractive (beauty or personality) to the opposite sex and have a wider selection of possible mates to chose from.

While interest in others is demonstrated by body Language, we should never use it to manipulate others. Truly attractive people are those who see themselves as who they really are, and always believing in themselves.

12 Tips for Reading Her Body Language Signals

Want to know what she is really thinking and feeling? How to read her body Language gestures to get it right. Understanding her body Language has never been easier.

1: Her chest. When indulging in foreplay, a pinkish flush will colour the skin of her chest, this is known as a "sex flush". This occurs as a result of changes in her blood pressure and circulation, as well as her respiration and pulse rates. This is her subtle way of telling you that you could get lucky if you keep on with what you are doing. Another positive sign that you are doing it right is when her breasts start to enlarge. Women's breasts will increase by as much as 25% when they are sexually aroused.

2: Her pupils. A woman's pupils will dilate when she is stimulated by you. Subconsciously, her body is made to want to see more of whatever is pleasing her visually. To do this, her irises have to let in more light. At this point she is also starting to look hotter to you as well, as research has shown that guys are more attracted to girls with larger pupils. A win-win situation!

3: Her eyelashes. Look her in the eyes for a minute. She should be blinking about 15 times per minute. Research has shown that women on the Pill blink 32% faster than those who aren't. How does this help you? Due to the shift in her hormone levels, women on the Pill are more sexually attracted to guys with rugged features and strong wide jaws. Strive for the confident, strong and hard image.

4: The small of her back. As a woman nears orgasm she will start to arch her back. Clasp her tightly around her waist and pay attention to just how much arching she is doing. Do not stop now. Keep everything going until she climaxes. Yours is coming.

5: Her nose. A woman's sense of smell is best first thing in the morning. Maybe you should clean your teeth if you are feeling amorous. Cooking her meal first thing in the morning is the best way to impress her with your cooking skills. Why? Because 90% of the taste of the meal is in the aroma. According to one study, warm banana bread is best if you have loving on your mind because it has an aroma that increases the blood flow to her vagina.

6: Her fingernails. Body-focused repetitive behaviours such as nail biting and cuticle picking are strong signs of anxiety or depression in women. Try not to nag her to stop; this can just make it worse. Try taking her hand, gently squeeze or massage it, and then keep holding it.
You should be able to feel the tension leave her hand.

7: Her hands. Cold hands, warm heart. Does she always seem to have cold hands? Research shows that her hands are at least 3 degrees colder than yours. This drops even further when she is stressed. Women's bodies have been programmed to keep their body core temperatures warmer than their extremities. The best way to warm up her hands is to wrap your arms around her waist, thereby increasing her body core temperature and allowing the blood to flow back into her hands.

8: Her brain. Women's brains respond to alcohol differently to men's. While men lose their inhibitions with alcohol, women tend to become more sedated. If you want to get her in the party spirit you should turn up the music. Mid to fast tempo music will put her in the mood and have her feeling more sociable.

9: Her ovaries. Female sexual motivation is at its peak when she is ovulating. This occurs two weeks after her period started. When a woman is most fertile, she is most libidinous. Careful.

10: Her Hair. When a woman starts playing with her hair she is sending strong sexual body Language signals that she is available. Stroking her hair is a good sign, but the best of the lot is the hair flick. This is said to be the surest signal that she is sexually attracted to you.

11: Her Neck: Stroking her neck or playing with her necklace are also very strong flirting body language signs, By doing these things she is drawing attention to her breasts. Throats and necks are lover's only zones, and if she is also arching her neck the signal is even stronger.

12: Her Mouth: When a woman starts to think sexual thoughts, she touches her mouth. Licking her lips, sucking on the straw or spoon suggestively, and sticking things in her mouth are all indicators that she could be up for it. Eating, drinking, and smoking faster are also great body language gestures indicative of erotic thoughts.

Use your observation skills! Read those body language signals to seduce your lover.

Here's looking at you, Coco Swan.

Is She Interested? 3 Ways Her Sexual Body Language Signals She MAY Be Interested in Sex!

How difficult is it to tell if a woman is interested in sex? Does she have to tell you that she is, or is there a way to read her body Language and figure it out on your own? What are the signs (or the "stances") that a woman will make that signal she likes you more than a friend? And are these things always right...or do they vary from woman to woman and situation to situation instead? In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at the signs that a woman may be interested in sex (or increased intimacy) and the simple, subtle and sexy signs that suggest you may want to make your move! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below!

Filed Under: Arched Back (and Breasts)

Most sociologists and sexual body Language aficionado's will tell you that the way a woman stands, in conversation, is a sexy sign of what she's' thinking...even if she doesn't say a word. The arching of the back is a suggestive position no matter what, but many believe it's actually a subconscious invitation for greater intimacy. (and should be returned by you getting closer, matching her with masculine, movements by leaning in, often called mirroring)

Filed Under: Does she talk (and touch) with her hands?

A woman who touches her conversational target is definitely sending signs of sexual interest. After all, touching is probably the most direct, and least subtle sign that contact is okay, and encouraged. And yet of course, many men mistake the wrong sort of touching with the wrong type of sign! "invitational" touching as many body Language experts will admit, is touching the arms, the thighs, and your hair during otherwise casual conversation. Some also believe that any overly animated hand gestures are suggestive of interest, especially if you are the only 2 in the conversation.

Filed Under: Body Language she CANT' control! (This is a definite give away)

Women who get flushed skin, for example...or a reddening of the face, often are excited, or sexually aroused! Dilating of the pupils is another sign she's excited. Light perspiration, and licking her lips nervously is another sexual signal. As a matter of fact, most of the signs that sex educators point out as pre orgasmic signals during sex, are also evident in a woman's daily body language when she is excited. (just not to the same degree, of course)

Remember though...all of the above are to be used as a rough guide to gauge interest, and are not meant to be more important than what she tells you she wants. A woman who is truly ready for sex will always say yes, and that is the most important signal there is!

6 Very Powerful Flirting and Sexual Attraction Body Language Signals

In the game of sexual attraction what you say isn't as nearly important as what your body says. In fact if you are so good at silent speech, you can say so much more with your body than words can ever do for you.

Here's how it's done.

1. Triangulating Eye Contact

First you need to draw attention to yourself. That can be achieved with fiddling with the collar, necklace or earring, or flicking dust from your sleeve or shoulder, just to name a few. After you catch his or her attention, hold his or her gaze for about 3 seconds, break eye contact downwards to take in the nose, lips and chin.

Triangulating eye-contact communicates the desire to know the other person more intimately (and I am not talking about "sex" people!). Keep in mind that while men generally do not mind prolonged eye contact with a strange woman (in fact they crave it especially if she's drop dead gorgeous), women on the other hand tend to be rather irritated by prolonged stares of unknown men (even great looking ones).

Also beware of cultural differences.

2. Eyebrow Flash

Eye contact with an eyebrow flash followed by a smile has an even more powerful effect.

Make eye contact, hold his or her gaze for about 3 seconds and break eye contact downwards (very briefly). As you look up again, take note of the chin, lips, nose and work your way up to the eyes. Add in the eyebrow flash and smile.

The message you want to send is "I was only being polite at first...but now that I've taken a good look....OH-WOW!"

Shy people can do this one so much better than the more aggressive type because subtlety and modesty comes to shy men and women naturally.

3. Eye Catching

Once you have his or her attention and conversation is flowing, use your fingers to draw attention to your eyes and to keep his or her gaze focused on you - and you alone. This is especially important when the exchange is taking place in cramped or crowded conditions.

Subtly touch your nose or gently rub your cheek making sure your index finger touches the area around the outer corner of your eye; your other fingers pointing on touching the mouth area. This says, "See, we're having a conversation here". To create maximum rapport be sure to hold eye contact when the other person is talking, then as his or her gaze begins to wander, bring it back by directing his or her eyes to your eyes and mouth area.

Another thing you can do is hold your face in both hands with the chin resting on your palms and elbows on the table. Gently stroke the area around the outer corners of both eyes with you index or middle finger; the other fingers slightly spread out in a semi-circle around your face. This gives the illusion of a whisper or secret being shared. Very intimate!

And if you wear glasses, slowly take them off, rub your eyes very briefly and put the glasses back on. But please, make sure it's not so obvious. And don't poke your eyes red because the apple of your eye has his or her attention drawn to the dude or chic the other side of the room. You have to make the conversation interesting as well, not just trying desperately to mechanically hold his or her gaze.

4. Sideways Glance

This is best achieved when walking away or when sitting with your back turned towards the person you want to be drawn towards you. Slowly look back with partially closed eyelids but drop the gaze the moment after it has been noticed. This gaze drop should be very brief. Look up triangulating your eye contact starting with the chin, lips, nose and working your way up to the eyes. Smile.

Moistening the lips at the same time you drop the gaze increases sexual tension.

For women, the sideways glance combined with a hair toss and parted lips can be very powerful. For men, this with the eyebrow flash is devastating! But you need a little bit of male-confidence not to appear creepy.

5. The Leg Cross (women only)

Entwined legs draw attention to body poise and give the impression of high muscle tone. Crossing and uncrossing legs while being watched by an interested male is a strong attraction signal, especially when you simultaneously hold eye contact, tilt your head sideways and stroke or rub a knee.

The catch here is that the type of men you are most likely to attract with this move are horny men - yeah, the hit-and-run type! So unless you really know the guy and have his stats checked out, keep both your feet on the ground - and together.

And if you're a couple or even married, these body Language moves can work wonders for your sexual chemistry. And when combined with prolonged eye contact and fondling cylindrical object like the stem of a wine glass, straw, pen, pencil or cigarette... Aiyaiyaiyiayai! Houston, We Have a Problem".

6. The Cowboy Hook (men only)

This "I am all man!" dominant stance calls for extra male confidence to pull it off. Works with thumbs tucked in the belt and the other fingers resting on the sides of the thighs framing the groin area (did I say this calls for extra male confidence!).

You can also achieve the same effect (or close) leaning on a door post or wall with one hand, the other hand inside the pocket, thumb sticking out and pointing towards you-know-where.

Any hand gesture that draws attention to the groin area shows great sexual and social confidence. A lot depends on whether the woman in question approves of a cave-man approach.

Will any one of these eye and body communication gestures net you the man or woman of your dreams?

Not necessarily. Personally, I do not believe that mechanical body Language gestures however effortless and flawless can do anything for you other than boost your confidence and get the sexual energy flowing in your body. At the end of the day, its the confident vibes coming from you that start the sexual attraction. Body Language can only get the already existing sexual chemistry going. If you can use body Language to cause a chain reaction, you're half way there!

And just as it takes effort and practice to be fluent in any language, you need practice to become fluent in body language. You can practice in front of a mirror or with the help of a supportive friend. You'll see that as you become more fluent in your flirting and sexual attraction body language, your confidence in yourself as a sexually attractive man or woman increases too.

Don't take yourself too seriously. The goal is not to become a body language expert but to become sexually confident with the opposite sex. So just have fun with your sexual being. Its yours to enjoy!

You can also use this knowledge to judge whether someone is flirting with you, interested in you and attracted in you. You can also use this knowledge to tell if someone is flirting with you, interested in you and attracted to you. Keep in mind, body language is no exact science.

For graphic illustrations of these very powerful flirting and sexual attraction body language signals, please click here and watch your flirting and sexual confidence hit the roof!

Male Body Language Flirting - 4 Tips To Read Men's Signals

Body Language flirting is complex. Men and women often have very different ways of flirting through body Language. This can lead to confusion or unnecessarily hurt feelings when each assumes that the other is not interested. Therefore, it is important to understand how men flirt. Understanding male body Language flirting techniques can make you more likely to correctly interpret a man's signals.

When a man is ready to flirt, he will scan the room for available females. If he catches your eye, it is a sign of interest. His gaze will pass quickly over women that he does not find attractive. Once he has your attention and through the point where you actually meet and chat, then his flirting signals do become a little more subtle. Check the following signals below. Men often do this!

His face and body language are opened. He's putting himself on display and looking receptive. His eyebrows raise, the eyes widen, the lips part slightly even the nostrils flare. What this means is that he's taking away the blocks he might use in his more lad-oriented life and inviting you to see and engage with the sensually sensitive real him.
He'll stand tall and look manly. He'll square off and pull himself up to his full height, displaying his prowess and he'll make sure you have time to admire him.
He'll sit with his legs apart. If standing, he'll hook his thumbs over his belt, or leave them outside his pockets, Most men do this to appear macho and posed, but a commonly unknown fact is that this action also highlights the genital region sending the message: "I'm virile."
He'll touch and preen himself. In part, this is nervousness and self consciousness. It's also because he wants to look good for you. If he's smoothing a collar or tie, or any piece of clothing for that matter and it's an auto erotic gesture then he's thinking sensually because of you.

So, when you know that a guy is flirting, what can you expect from a connection?

It is very simple. Flirting is the first step of foreplay. Even though a man might be flirting with you, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. Flirting is a nice way for people to be playful and have fun.

A guy who flirts is not saying:

"I want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you"

All he says is:

"I feel attracted to you and I want to connect"

Take the flirting game exactly for what it is: a light innocent connection. Sometimes, a flirt evolves into something deeper and very often a flirt stays a flirt and does not shift to dating or relationship. So, just stay in the moment! And enjoy it exactly for what it is!

Reading Female Body Language Signals - 5 Hot Body Language Signs of Female Attraction

If you want to know how a woman thinks and feels at any situation, then reading female body Language signals is crucial. Whether you're inviting a woman to a date, or you're already in a relationship, you can find out what she's thinking or feeling at any moment if you're adept in reading female body Language signs.

Here are 5 hot and reliable signs to know if a woman is attracted to you.

# 1 - The Eyes

If her eyes are dilated or widely opened, that means she's interested or may even be sexually attracted to you.

Here's another way to find out if she likes you. Notice if she looks at you longer-than-usual, glances her eyes away for a while (she may look down or on her sides), and then looks at you again. If she does this repeatedly (especially with a smile on her face), then she's very attracted to you.

When a woman is excited to see you, you might also notice her eyebrows rise unconsciously.

# 2 - The Lips

You'll know if a woman fancies you by reading her lips. Some female body Language signals that indicate attraction include wetting or massaging her lips with her tongue, softly biting them, and putting on lipstick.

# 3 - The Legs

If she consistently crosses and uncrosses her legs, then this is a clue that she likes you. If she's massaging and/or exposing her thighs while crossing and uncrossing, then this is a very clear sign of attraction.

However, if she crosses her legs tightly and for a long time, she might be indicating defensiveness. She may be signaling that she's "closed" from any potential sexual encounters.

# 4 - The Knees

You can tell if a girl's interested in you by looking at her knees. If they're facing you, then that's a good sign of attraction. If she turns her other body parts towards you as if she wants to focus her attention solely on you, then you just hit the jackpot.

If her knees are pointing towards directions other than yours, then this indicates her disinterest; hence, she wants to get out of the current situation. Reading this female body language signal is vital so you won't keep on pursuing her if she's not interested anymore.

# 5 - The Hands

If a woman touches you, then this is a very reliable sign of attraction. Notice that she may not touch you in an obvious manner. She may touch your arm to prove a point or come up with reasons to dust your shirt. But you know better!

Isn't it fascinating how you can decode what a woman is feeling or thinking by simply reading female body language signals? Now you can do away with the guessing game and start focusing on your romantic adventures.

Sexual Body Language Signals for Men

What are some sexual body Language signals and how can men use their body Language to attract more women? Good looking women know in a second or two if a man is worth a moment of their time. They are looking for a sexual attractive, confident man.

I feel most women make a decision unconsciously about whether the man is a real man or not. I feel that these unconscious decisions are based on feelings that are based on the mans body language and tone of his voice.

If you are not naturally a men that attracts women like flies then you need to learn these body language skills.

Most men look at what words and pick up lines they say to a women. They focus on techniques that are not really that important. In fact it is far more important in how you say your words and the tone and body language used. I feel you can learn these skills but most men could not be bothered and then complain about a lack of success in dating.

What area the three most important Body Language Signals to create attraction in a woman?

The first is essential and you should use your body language signal with holding her eye contact longer than she does. If a women looks at you, hold her eye contact until she looks away. If you look away first, you are making a huge mistake and you are communicating weakness. You must show in the first contact that you have no fear. If you have fear of holding her eyes then you fail big time.

I suggest to go to a busy shopping centre and hold the eyes of every women that looks at you until they look away. This can be challenging to some men but the rewards of inner growth in your self confidence are great.

Learn to use a very confident posture in your body language. Feel totally self confident and your body language will take on this quality. Push out your chest a little and stand tall. Take up more room with your body language posture. Women want a real man not a Wuss. Learn to use more slow movements and gestures. This takes practice, because when we are nervous, we tend to talk too fast and with a higher tone.

Use cool slow movements and do not make nervous gestures. Look in a James bond movie for tips. Feel totally comfortable in your skin and feel totally powerful. Imagine this if it is not true.

Use a deeper, slower body language voice tone. Learn to speak deeper from our belly and speak slower. Try this and you will find women day your voice is sexy and it turns them on. Try to add more base to your voice. Also pause more as this make you sound more content.