Is She Interested? - Women's Body Language

"Your actions speak so loudly I can hardly hear what you say!" (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Body Language - The Key to Reading People

Body Language, such as non-verbal gestures, postures and expressions, is a subject you have heard about but you probably do not use. It is still as valid as ever and can definitely give you an advantage in the dating game.

You communicate much more non-verbally than verbally. Women are more expressive in body Language and better at reading it. However men can learn and develop these skills.

There is a great deal of very deep analysis of body Language in all sorts of social situations and a great many Books. For your use however, there are two aspects that you need to concentrate on -

Observing women's body language so when you see ten women in a bar you can tell which one is eager to meet you, and
Reinforcing your own body language messages to ensure that you are welcoming, open and congruent, so your physiology matches what you are saying.

Body language can help you be more successful in dating. Women are often only being friendly not initiating an approach - if there is no invite then rejection is inevitable. Hence you can improve the odds by working out which women are open to being approached. Learn how to read women's body language so you know when you're in with a chance and can press on with confidence, or when you are wasting your time and should cut your losses and run.

Body language is fascinating to watch and study. Understanding the signals and messages your body is sending out and reading the signals others are sending you is one of the most useful dating skills to master.

Body Language Basics

You need to think about your and her body signals. Concentrate on her; observe her - her appearance, her personality, her connection.

It is said the eyes are the window to the soul. This works both ways - your eyes reflect your innermost thoughts, her eyes indicate what she's thinking. You communicate more with your eyes than any other body part - it is impossible to flirt without making eye contact.

Your hands send powerful messages. Are they open or closed, apart or touching, in our pockets or waving wildly around? Open hand gestures indicate openness, genuineness and friendliness.

Your posture can signal a wide range of messages to whoever cares to look. It can indicate your interest or otherwise, whether you feel defensive or open and whether you really want to be there. All these are valuable signals being given to you in your quest for a date.

Her Body Language

The most important point to remember when trying to read her body language is that you can't determine what she is feeling by observing just one body language sign. You need to look for groups of behaviour signs. Folded arms might mean she is putting up a barrier. Alternatively it might be that she is cold, she has spilt something down her blouse and is attempting to cover it up or it's just the way she always sits. In addition it is not how she looks which is important but more often it is the change in body language that is most telling. If she goes from leaning forward, gazing into your eyes and smiling to leaning back, arms folded, frowning and avoiding eye contact then she has changed her mood and it is up to you to understand why and react.

Is She Interested in You?

There are two stages in using body language to improve your odds of success. Firstly you need to identify which women in a situation are on the look out for a man. Next you need to interpret signals directly sent to you. In a social situation to determine which women you have a chance with first of all observe how they are behaving. Are they looking around, checking out the men, scanning the surroundings? If so this is an indication they are available and looking. There are a number of key signals that may indicate she is interested in you and in any advances you might make. The key to improving your success is learning to read these signals. The way she looks at you, stands, smiles or grimaces. Learn to read her like a Book then act when you see a green light.

Your Body Language

The points above apply equally well to you. Be aware of the messages each part of your body and posture are giving out. In addition the key area to work on is your physiology as you approach people. The basic rule is to maintain eye contact, smile and appear friendly. Eye contact can be deemed aggressive, particularly if you maintain an unwavering stare! So when you are working out if a woman is interested just hold the gaze for a second or two longer than you normally would. Don't stare without blinking - she will think you are a lunatic and don't grimace - you will look as though you are in pain! If you get a response, act immediately. If you don't she knows you are nervous and all is lost!

"It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings" (Dale Carnegie)

Is She Interested? 3 Ways Her Sexual Body Language Signals She MAY Be Interested in Sex!

How difficult is it to tell if a woman is interested in sex? Does she have to tell you that she is, or is there a way to read her body Language and figure it out on your own? What are the signs (or the "stances") that a woman will make that signal she likes you more than a friend? And are these things always right...or do they vary from woman to woman and situation to situation instead? In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at the signs that a woman may be interested in sex (or increased intimacy) and the simple, subtle and sexy signs that suggest you may want to make your move! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below!

Filed Under: Arched Back (and Breasts)

Most sociologists and sexual body Language aficionado's will tell you that the way a woman stands, in conversation, is a sexy sign of what she's' thinking...even if she doesn't say a word. The arching of the back is a suggestive position no matter what, but many believe it's actually a subconscious invitation for greater intimacy. (and should be returned by you getting closer, matching her with masculine, movements by leaning in, often called mirroring)

Filed Under: Does she talk (and touch) with her hands?

A woman who touches her conversational target is definitely sending signs of sexual interest. After all, touching is probably the most direct, and least subtle sign that contact is okay, and encouraged. And yet of course, many men mistake the wrong sort of touching with the wrong type of sign! "invitational" touching as many body Language experts will admit, is touching the arms, the thighs, and your hair during otherwise casual conversation. Some also believe that any overly animated hand gestures are suggestive of interest, especially if you are the only 2 in the conversation.

Filed Under: Body Language she CANT' control! (This is a definite give away)

Women who get flushed skin, for example...or a reddening of the face, often are excited, or sexually aroused! Dilating of the pupils is another sign she's excited. Light perspiration, and licking her lips nervously is another sexual signal. As a matter of fact, most of the signs that sex educators point out as pre orgasmic signals during sex, are also evident in a woman's daily body language when she is excited. (just not to the same degree, of course)

Remember though...all of the above are to be used as a rough guide to gauge interest, and are not meant to be more important than what she tells you she wants. A woman who is truly ready for sex will always say yes, and that is the most important signal there is!

Know If Someone Is Interested In You Immediately By Reading Their Body Language

If there is one thing that can save all of us a lot of time, trouble and heartache it's learning how to read the body Language of the opposite sex. How many times have you misread the body Language of someone, thinking they were attracted to you and when you made your move you were shot down in flames! The ability to read the body Language of the opposite sex can tell you whether they are attracted to you or not from across a room. It can also help keep you from sending the wrong signals yourself. Reading body Language isn't all that difficult to learn and once you get used to it you will find it is almost instinctive.

One very easy way to tell if someone may have an interest in you is how close they stand to you. If they are standing farther away and move closer this can be an indication that they are interested, on the other hand if they are close to you and move away it can mean the opposite. It's similar to the two foot rule in sales, if they come within two feet of you they are very likely to be interested in you. The reason this is such a big deal is because they are sharing space with you within reach of you and trusting that they are safe with you. If someone stays more than two feet away from you it is almost certain that they are not romantically interested in you.

Mirroring your body language is another way that someone can show they are interested in you. This is usually done without even thinking about it, but if you notice someone doing it now that you have a little knowledge about body language you can feel comfortable that they are interested in you. In most cases the other person doesn't even realize they are doing it, but it is simply instinctive for us to imitate people we want to be close to.

The way that someone stands when they are speaking to you can show body language that tells you whether or not they are interested as well. If someone is speaking to you and they are turned towards you and possible even leaning in towards you it is an indicator that they are interested in you. Much of romantic body language is built around trust and safety. If you appear unguarded then it makes the other person feel safe, if you open yourself up to another person and they mirror that body language, they are most likely interested in you.

One of the biggest indicators of romantic interest is eye contact. When we have an interest in someone or we are attracted to them we strive to make eye contact with them and if they maintain eye contact with you they are definitely interested in you. When someone purposely looks away or avoids making eye contact with you they are not interested so either way you get a pretty clear message from the eyes.

Even though body language is usually understated and involuntary it can also give a clear sign of romantic interest. It seems that because body language is instinctive also makes a very precise signal of romantic interest.