Feelings and emotions are immaterial entities that we express through words. The terms we use are loaded with positive, neutral or negative meanings. A rich vocabulary of words to describe feelings is characteristic to emotionally intelligent persons because they are very good at communicating what they experience at the emotional level. They create an entire linguistic context when describing their emotions, Compare "I feel pretty yucky" to "I feel discouraged after trying to get his attention three times already". The advantages of using a complex and good emotional vocabulary reside in the fact that you better express yourself, you make yourself clear about your feelings and you enable the others to comprehend what you mean. Thus, your needs are more likely to be met.
The following activity is a good exercise to associate emotions with words. Use the list below:
aggressive, aggravated; alienated; amused; angry; annoyed; anxious; apathetic; appalled; awed; bashful; blissful; bored; cautious; cheerful' confident;confused;curious;
delighted; depressed; determined; disappointed;discouraged; disgusted; ecstatic; elated; embarrassed; enthusiastic; envious; excited; exhausted; fearful; frightened; frustrated;
glad; guilty; happy; helpless; hopeful; hostile; humiliated; hurt; hysterical; interested; jealous; joyous; lonely; loved; love-struck; miserable; negative; optimistic; paranoid; peaceful; proud; puzzled; regretful;
relieved; sad; satisfied; shocked; sorry; sure; surprised; suspicious; undecided; withdrawn.
Once you have reviewed the list, here are the things you should do:
Write down in your noteBook every emotion you've felt over the course of your life;
Write down a "+" next to each emotion you consider positive, a "-" next to every one you think negative and a "0" next to the ones that are neutral.
Using a scale from 1 to 10, rate each emotion in what intensity is concerned, 1 being the scale for minimal, 5 for average, and 10 for extreme.
Calculate the total number of emotions that you have experienced and write it down.
Add the positive emotions, then the negative and neutral ones, writing the results in your noteBook.
Compare your number of negative versus positive emotions.
After the comparison, you will find out what type of emotions prevails in your life. Calculate the average intensity of the positive and negative emotions and compare them. The wider the range of emotional experiences is, the richer your life is. You can accurately perceive, label and empathize with the others if you are able to describe and acknowledge your emotions.
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