Your Body Language Can Attract Him

Are you aware of your body Language? Do you understand what you are saying with your physical gestures when you see a guy across the room and want to meet him? You can be more aware of your actions and your impact when you know body Language signs and signals.

Sometimes, we don't realize the messages we are sending to others. What we might not understand is that body Language comes through loud and clear.

When people enter adolescence, boys and girls begin to send each other affection signals, usually without being aware of it. By the time they go to high school and college, their body Language is targeted at pursuing the person they are interested in.

These body language signals must be evaluated in the context of where you are and what you are doing. In general, we are talking about what one single person is saying to another non-verbally. The following body language lets a guy know you are interested in him:

*Smile

The major body language gesture from a woman to a man to tell him she is interested is the smile. It crosses all cultural lines. Generally, the way a woman first contacts a man in order to connect is to smile, look away, look back and give a half smile, look down, and finally, make eye contact. This non-verbal dance will go on until one of them moves close enough to talk. If neither does, they will tire of the exchange with each other and choose someone else in the crowd to notice.

*Eye Contact

The second most important body language signal is eye contact. If you can hold someone's gaze for a short time, look down, look up again, and still see them looking at you, you have made eye contact. Staring into someone's eyes relentlessly can scare them, so you don't need to over-do it. But a smile followed by on-going eye contact means you have probably made a connection.

*Hair

When a woman looks at a man and then flips or fluffs her hair, that gesture is a strong signal that she is interested in him. However, when a man runs his fingers through his hair when he approaches a woman, he is nervous.

*Direction

The direction your toes or chest are pointing when you are talking to a guy speaks volumes on how you feel about him. The same is true for men. If the center of your chest (heart zone) is facing someone, this is a good sign you are interested. If his toes are pointed away from you, this signals that he wants to walk away and move in another direction.

*Unconscious and Unattractive Behaviors

Some behaviors indicate that you are uncomfortable or nervous. You might not mean to send him away, but if you do some of the following, he may look for someone easier to talk to:

·Shaking your foot or your leg vigorously

·Twisting a piece of your hair

·Picking at your fingers, or drumming them on the table

·Biting your nails

·Crunching ice or hard candy

·Chewing gum loudly

Ask your friends what habits and body movements you have that you might not be aware of. Knowledge is power. Body language speaks louder than words.

Heidegger - Language is the House of Being

Language is the house of Being. In its home man dwells. Those who think and those who create with words are the guardians of this home." - Martin Heidegger, German philosopher, Letter on Humanism, 1947.

The philosopher Jose Ortega y Gasset once said that man had no nature, only history. While I respect this opinion, I think that man's real human nature is Language. Just as the lesser god Prometheus handed fire to man, a major God handed a major boon to mankind: Language.

After years of pondering whatever Martin Heidegger meant by "Language is the House of Being," it finally dawned on me (as I watched catatrophic news on TV) that Heidegger meant language is not only a construct, a shelter, an edifice, an abode, but the soul of humanity--container of infinity.

Through language we search heaven and earth; through language we accept or reject God; through language we accept or reject the absolutes that guide the human race.

And yes, it is only through language that we experience aesthetic bliss--and love. Although bliss and love are more akin to the emotional life, the viscera, the central nervous system, the body can only partially express bliss and love. Language is indispensable, or if not, then try to tell that to painters, poets, and writers.

Take Trollope (in History of Pendennis):"It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all." And Trollope went on to fill library shelves with language and love.

We think and we feel by using words. Though words are more adept and adequate to thinking than to feeling, we still recognize that even our deepest emotions must be converted into words to express what we feel. When we immerse ourselves in a good Book we feel with and for the characters: with Don Quijote and Sancho we experience the real meaning of friendship; with Anna Karenina and Aschenbach we feel the exquisite pangs of deeply tormented souls; with Remedios The Beauty we ascend to heaven.

Can we build science without language? Isn't language the vessel of patterns, axioms, equations, paradigms, and formulas? Is wisdom achievable without language?

Even the most recalcitrant nihilist or atheist needs language to refute the existence of God; the same God that gave him the gift of language.

When humans master a language, they are never homeless. Even when their houses burn--as we watched the flames destroy thousands of houses in San Diego, California--their spirit, their humanity survives in the House of Being--Infinity.

Is She Interested? 3 Ways Her Sexual Body Language Signals She MAY Be Interested in Sex!

How difficult is it to tell if a woman is interested in sex? Does she have to tell you that she is, or is there a way to read her body Language and figure it out on your own? What are the signs (or the "stances") that a woman will make that signal she likes you more than a friend? And are these things always right...or do they vary from woman to woman and situation to situation instead? In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at the signs that a woman may be interested in sex (or increased intimacy) and the simple, subtle and sexy signs that suggest you may want to make your move! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below!

Filed Under: Arched Back (and Breasts)

Most sociologists and sexual body Language aficionado's will tell you that the way a woman stands, in conversation, is a sexy sign of what she's' thinking...even if she doesn't say a word. The arching of the back is a suggestive position no matter what, but many believe it's actually a subconscious invitation for greater intimacy. (and should be returned by you getting closer, matching her with masculine, movements by leaning in, often called mirroring)

Filed Under: Does she talk (and touch) with her hands?

A woman who touches her conversational target is definitely sending signs of sexual interest. After all, touching is probably the most direct, and least subtle sign that contact is okay, and encouraged. And yet of course, many men mistake the wrong sort of touching with the wrong type of sign! "invitational" touching as many body Language experts will admit, is touching the arms, the thighs, and your hair during otherwise casual conversation. Some also believe that any overly animated hand gestures are suggestive of interest, especially if you are the only 2 in the conversation.

Filed Under: Body Language she CANT' control! (This is a definite give away)

Women who get flushed skin, for example...or a reddening of the face, often are excited, or sexually aroused! Dilating of the pupils is another sign she's excited. Light perspiration, and licking her lips nervously is another sexual signal. As a matter of fact, most of the signs that sex educators point out as pre orgasmic signals during sex, are also evident in a woman's daily body language when she is excited. (just not to the same degree, of course)

Remember though...all of the above are to be used as a rough guide to gauge interest, and are not meant to be more important than what she tells you she wants. A woman who is truly ready for sex will always say yes, and that is the most important signal there is!

Basic Presuppositions - A Useful Milton Model Language Pattern

Milton Erickson was widely renowned for his mastery of Language, how he could weave his patterns of speech so artfully that people would be unable to do anything other than what he wanted them to.

Bandler and Grinder modelled his Language and simplified it into the Milton Model.
One of the many useful and easily applicable Milton Model Patterns is Presupposition.

A useful presupposition is:

"Before you"

This simple phrase is great when doing overt induction's. For example "Before you go deeper" not only allows you to easily deliver an embedded command, but presupposes that they will, in fact, go deeper, very handy.

This can also be applied in conversational hypnosis.

Similar patterns include When you, as you, while you, after you, as soon as you, don't...too quickly...when will you...

All are basic presuppositions, and work by indirectly suggesting the behaviour mentioned, without alerting conscious resistance, or allowing for the subject not to at least imagine doing what you say.

For example " as you continue to think about what you read I would like to have you think about when you will understand what you are learning at a deep unconscious level".

It is impossible to make sense of that statement without accepting that you are both thinking about what you are reading, and will, in fact, come to understand this at a deep unconscious level.

At no point did I directly make any suggestions, so I avoided conscious resistance, at the same time my suggestions were being given as forcefully as if they were given directly.

The power of presuppositions is quite astounding, as I am sure you will realize when you go out and use them.

6 Very Powerful Flirting and Sexual Attraction Body Language Signals

In the game of sexual attraction what you say isn't as nearly important as what your body says. In fact if you are so good at silent speech, you can say so much more with your body than words can ever do for you.

Here's how it's done.

1. Triangulating Eye Contact

First you need to draw attention to yourself. That can be achieved with fiddling with the collar, necklace or earring, or flicking dust from your sleeve or shoulder, just to name a few. After you catch his or her attention, hold his or her gaze for about 3 seconds, break eye contact downwards to take in the nose, lips and chin.

Triangulating eye-contact communicates the desire to know the other person more intimately (and I am not talking about "sex" people!). Keep in mind that while men generally do not mind prolonged eye contact with a strange woman (in fact they crave it especially if she's drop dead gorgeous), women on the other hand tend to be rather irritated by prolonged stares of unknown men (even great looking ones).

Also beware of cultural differences.

2. Eyebrow Flash

Eye contact with an eyebrow flash followed by a smile has an even more powerful effect.

Make eye contact, hold his or her gaze for about 3 seconds and break eye contact downwards (very briefly). As you look up again, take note of the chin, lips, nose and work your way up to the eyes. Add in the eyebrow flash and smile.

The message you want to send is "I was only being polite at first...but now that I've taken a good look....OH-WOW!"

Shy people can do this one so much better than the more aggressive type because subtlety and modesty comes to shy men and women naturally.

3. Eye Catching

Once you have his or her attention and conversation is flowing, use your fingers to draw attention to your eyes and to keep his or her gaze focused on you - and you alone. This is especially important when the exchange is taking place in cramped or crowded conditions.

Subtly touch your nose or gently rub your cheek making sure your index finger touches the area around the outer corner of your eye; your other fingers pointing on touching the mouth area. This says, "See, we're having a conversation here". To create maximum rapport be sure to hold eye contact when the other person is talking, then as his or her gaze begins to wander, bring it back by directing his or her eyes to your eyes and mouth area.

Another thing you can do is hold your face in both hands with the chin resting on your palms and elbows on the table. Gently stroke the area around the outer corners of both eyes with you index or middle finger; the other fingers slightly spread out in a semi-circle around your face. This gives the illusion of a whisper or secret being shared. Very intimate!

And if you wear glasses, slowly take them off, rub your eyes very briefly and put the glasses back on. But please, make sure it's not so obvious. And don't poke your eyes red because the apple of your eye has his or her attention drawn to the dude or chic the other side of the room. You have to make the conversation interesting as well, not just trying desperately to mechanically hold his or her gaze.

4. Sideways Glance

This is best achieved when walking away or when sitting with your back turned towards the person you want to be drawn towards you. Slowly look back with partially closed eyelids but drop the gaze the moment after it has been noticed. This gaze drop should be very brief. Look up triangulating your eye contact starting with the chin, lips, nose and working your way up to the eyes. Smile.

Moistening the lips at the same time you drop the gaze increases sexual tension.

For women, the sideways glance combined with a hair toss and parted lips can be very powerful. For men, this with the eyebrow flash is devastating! But you need a little bit of male-confidence not to appear creepy.

5. The Leg Cross (women only)

Entwined legs draw attention to body poise and give the impression of high muscle tone. Crossing and uncrossing legs while being watched by an interested male is a strong attraction signal, especially when you simultaneously hold eye contact, tilt your head sideways and stroke or rub a knee.

The catch here is that the type of men you are most likely to attract with this move are horny men - yeah, the hit-and-run type! So unless you really know the guy and have his stats checked out, keep both your feet on the ground - and together.

And if you're a couple or even married, these body Language moves can work wonders for your sexual chemistry. And when combined with prolonged eye contact and fondling cylindrical object like the stem of a wine glass, straw, pen, pencil or cigarette... Aiyaiyaiyiayai! Houston, We Have a Problem".

6. The Cowboy Hook (men only)

This "I am all man!" dominant stance calls for extra male confidence to pull it off. Works with thumbs tucked in the belt and the other fingers resting on the sides of the thighs framing the groin area (did I say this calls for extra male confidence!).

You can also achieve the same effect (or close) leaning on a door post or wall with one hand, the other hand inside the pocket, thumb sticking out and pointing towards you-know-where.

Any hand gesture that draws attention to the groin area shows great sexual and social confidence. A lot depends on whether the woman in question approves of a cave-man approach.

Will any one of these eye and body communication gestures net you the man or woman of your dreams?

Not necessarily. Personally, I do not believe that mechanical body Language gestures however effortless and flawless can do anything for you other than boost your confidence and get the sexual energy flowing in your body. At the end of the day, its the confident vibes coming from you that start the sexual attraction. Body Language can only get the already existing sexual chemistry going. If you can use body Language to cause a chain reaction, you're half way there!

And just as it takes effort and practice to be fluent in any language, you need practice to become fluent in body language. You can practice in front of a mirror or with the help of a supportive friend. You'll see that as you become more fluent in your flirting and sexual attraction body language, your confidence in yourself as a sexually attractive man or woman increases too.

Don't take yourself too seriously. The goal is not to become a body language expert but to become sexually confident with the opposite sex. So just have fun with your sexual being. Its yours to enjoy!

You can also use this knowledge to judge whether someone is flirting with you, interested in you and attracted in you. You can also use this knowledge to tell if someone is flirting with you, interested in you and attracted to you. Keep in mind, body language is no exact science.

For graphic illustrations of these very powerful flirting and sexual attraction body language signals, please click here and watch your flirting and sexual confidence hit the roof!

Etymology- How Words Change Over Time

Etymology is the study of the origins of words.

As Languages develop the meaning of words can change over time. This causes confusion and misunderstanding when communicating with other people.

In a world were you make a living at communicating, advertising or marketing, it is not only important to have clarity in your message, it is also important to think of your target market and understand how they understand words and messages.

On the positive side that words change meaning over time, it has been noted that Languages that stay alive, adapt and grow over time.

An example would be the word nice. Nice used to be an insult and meant foolish or stupid in the 13th century and it went through many changes right through to the 18th century with meanings like wanton, extravagant, elegant, strange, modest, thin, and shy or coy. Now it means a good & pleasing or thoughtful & kind.

Silly meant blessed or happy in the 11th century and went through pious, innocent, harmless, pitiable and feeble minded before ending up as foolish or stupid.

Pretty started as crafty this changed to clever or skillfully made, then to fine and ended up as beautiful.

Some other changes are:

Word ______ Original Meaning

Awful________ Deserving of awe

Bead _________Prayer

Brave_________ Cowardice (as in bravado)

Girl__________ Young person of either sex

Neck_________ Parcel of land (as in neck of the woods)

Nuisance______ Injury, harm

Sophisticated___Corrupted

There are several reasons for words change meaning. One is the influence of other languages and cultures. Throughout history, many nations through conquering or intermixing with one another, introduced their own languages into the mix. Another reason is the predominate use of slang words. We get so used to using them that many times we forget that we even are.

So when it comes to defining words, there is the standard dictonary, which by the way can show multiple meanings for one word, and there is the definition of the word in slang.
As well, slang words spread faster and are used more often than before, making them common place in many societies.

Due to the advancement of science and technology, new words are also being created at an amazing rate. Keeping up with some of the new words and your usage of them will help in your efforts understand and to become a master communicator.

Once every ten years, the Merriam- Webster dictionary is updated. Their 11th edition for 2003 included some 10,000 new words along with 100,000 new meanings to words already existing and some 225,00 revised definitions.

Some of the slang words that have made it in the dictionary are;

Headbanger- a hard rock musician and a fan

Dead presidents- Paper currency

Prairie Gophering - people who peer above their cubicles at work.

McJob- Low paying and dead-end work.

Comb-over- an attempt to cover a bald spot

You can learn about more words in an etymology dictionary.

We can use this as another reminder, especially when it is important to have a group goal achieved, that what a word means to us, may not have the same meaning to someone else.

There is also the emotional reactions that different people have to certain words. But that's another story...

Does He Love Me? 5 Proven Ways to Know

Does he really love me? Does he feel the same way I feel about him? These questions are obvious when you are trying to figure out whether a guy loves you or not. There is a big difference in loving and liking someone. Sometimes love is confused with a strong liking or attraction towards someone. There are several ways to figure out whether he loves you or not. Read on to find out what these ways are and you can figure out whether he loves you or not.

He cares for you- If he loves you he would show a lot of care and affection towards you every single time. He would care for you as if he was family and would get happy when you are joyful and sad when you are down. A smile on your face would always make him happy.

He treats you like a princess- Another ways to figure out whether he loves or not is to see the way he treats you. When a guy loves a girl he tends to treat her like a real queen. He would treat you with candle lights, open doors for you, he would try to do anything and everything just to make you happy and make you feel special due to his love for you.

He expresses it- The best way to figure out whether he loves you or not is by simply reading his body Language. He would most definitely do little or big things just to show you that he loves you a lot and wants to be with you. He might be shy to actually say the real words but actions tend to speak louder than words.

Expensive gifts- This is one of the best determinant of whether he loves you or not. If he really loves you he would greet you with exceptionally expensive gifts. A guy would only spend money on expensive gifts when he really loves you.